I Have been jailed

was happily chattin away this evenin till i got my first ever lock up in twitter jail how very rude i had only been on for an hour or so an exceeded my limit i knew i was a chatter box but blimey this is summat else lol jus thought i would share this lil incident as i was left rather gobsmacked lol that is all

bein a socialite so to speak!!

Soo i have endeavored in getting a Google+ account not a clue how it work but thanks to twitter i have 2 people in my circle.
After joining I was thinking I have had every kind of social account at one point or another Bebo MySpace Netlog Facebook Twitter and now Google+ . This Lil fact made me see something i hadn't before although I am a very sociable person I find that I am more of a socialite through my tweets where i often have interesting chats with funny and interesting people than i have with many of my "real life" friends, I find it astounding that the level of conversation with practical strangers known by screen name actually trumps my best friend who although i love her to bits her interests mainly include that of the next eyebrow shape nail salon visit an fake tanning.
Where as these "strangers" i talk football reading movie and general day to day there is always a topic never am i lost for words or on the phone making the excuse of the tea is ready so am going to go eat to break an awkward silence of saying all the things we had needed to. I would like to state that this is not a blog about the friends i have as i have a variety of friends whom i spend time with under various circumstance i.e work friends, gamer friends, best pals, friends i only see now n then, and friends i don't see enough. But the ones i interact with most are those social net-worker just like me sitting down at the end of the day just logging on to see whats going on in the world. I admit i am more of a internet geek and too most of my "real" friends its common knowledge and often butt of many jokes at me unexpected geek chic but I enjoy it because whether its my best friends who know me inside out an back to front or the people i say hey to of an evening i would like to consider myself blessed friends locally socially and internationally and for all those who say its a bad thing i say this if having online friends as well as real ones who ensure that at any  point when you need it you can find someone to just have that chat you need to is a bad thing well there's something wrong

so there u have it whether its in my lil home town or cyberspace i think we should celebrate our socialite in us we all have one xx

life and trials of childcare

As a working mum i would love to get my child into a nursery there are 3 in the area all chocka full so when i thought about a childminder as a second choice and found a place, I thought great but when i call the tax credit ti get the help i qualify for i simply end up sat on a fone for what feels like a life time.


This i feel is something we all have to face as an issue with government run facilities but seriously i have tried no less than 5 times in 2 days an been on hold at least half an hour at a time if they want us to improve the lives of our children and get them into early education at least make it plausible to gain the information on help we can receive financially in these difficult times a small rant but i felt i had to do it :)

back again

So i have been absent from blog world but i am back with an update on the current nightmare of trying to teach J some manners and as he is 2 years old this is a huge challenge he insists on everything being now and most answers include don't want. But we persist with the please line and don't shout at mummy and daddy currently to no avail. In other news i am working towards becoming shift manager in work and it means more paperwork to go through training courses and many other fun events to get through on top of attempting to maintain a tidy home. This is currently failing to all those mums who have a pristine home i honestly have no idea how you do it without tying your children down for the remainder of the day till bedtime as my son has an ingenious knack of undoing all my hard work in a swift way. As its the summer we are still going through limbo as the boys and myself have no interest in weekend TV any more although this will spark up again in august thanks goodness with the start of a new season I know I am one of a small section but being in a family of majority boys I have always had a passion for the sport football and sport in general.

In other news I have noticed as the kids near the holidays that they seem to have accumulated a total disregard for general human nature as I caught a rabble of youngsters throwing rocks at the side of my home I went out to pleasantly tell them to well get away from my house to which i was grunted at n asked how much I was a go. Being far to polite I wont tell you my response but u can imagine it I am sure.

To finish off my regular TV rant the show is one about vinny green childrens home for lets say the disfunctional youths or those that are a danger to themselves the latter I can understand the government giving millions to ensure mental health care and improvement of their confidence and how to deal with the issues they have. But when it is mearly some jumped up little thug who wants to fight the world I say a much more firm approach of if your big enough to do the crime go and see what the big boys in prison make of you I think we would see quite the decline in young offenders if ther realised they would run into someone bigger and meaner than themselves.

So all in all everything is much the same I miss my beloved football dearly whilst getting whiplash from tranfer news and rumours whilst working hard to keep all my balls in the air and make sure that am not only being a good mummy and being good to me :)

Sorry for the absence

I have decided to reduce my blogging in order to hopefully make it less mundane as i aim for quality over quantity. So heres our life over the last few weeks aswell as dealing with increasing tantrums we had J 2nd birthday an event with had ups and downs downs being family that should of come not bothering hurtful but unfortnate. But I decided to cater and plan the party myself a task which i have been called mad for doing but overall a good day was had by all. My concerns now lie in getting J to sleep in  junior bed without wanting to run off out in his room and potty training which in all honesty is going at a snails pace. But we seem to have won a battle in getting J to walk like a big boy now rather than use the buggy so much one less thing to lug around and as a parent knows thats always a god send having one less thing to lumber around. I have watched another of these reality shows around parenting and too not repeat my earlier rant I turned it off. No wonder young parents get no respect. On top of lifes trials and tribulations I have had to be tough mum and push my pains to the side as i have been dealing with a horrid bbout of tooth/earache for days now but as all mums know we just have to get up and get on with it and thats exactly what i have done. so i sign off for now having got a hack of a day aheado f me but will be back soon too fill you in again.

A Heck Of A Day

The past few days have been hectic with birthday preperations as well as another family occasion and working I have been feeling the candle burning at both ends but its all part and parcel for me a feeling I am well used to. It's true when they say motherhood gets no holidays and no sick days but is the best job in the world. I had the satisfaction of being able to watch my little man run around shouting goal at the tv monday night at the liverpool win he only watched the first half but his latest outburst of excitement lead to his dad going and getting him a football. God have mercy on my house, also we have been re-decorating the house due to its dated appearance of faded paint a job which J finds entertaining wanting to try and help. But since the crayon has still not been covered in the living room I decided his help was not best. I have to say though my pride is bursting as he get better and better at putting words together and saying new words. So we can't be doing a bad job if he is learning at the rate that he is. I have got work again today so J is having a boys day at home with dad seeing as they're both still asleep i think cuddle may have to wait till later for me please continue to share this blog and tell me your views if you wish I do this simple to share my experiences with other mums because i know first hand how much hardwork it is.

Finding The Balance

So after coming home today from an 8 hour shift I started thinking about how us mums find the balance of working being mum and beinf wife/girlfriend/friend .

I would like to say yes i have a good balance but I admit if find it incredibly hard still leaving J or if I am working early and he is at home with my partner knowing I won't see him till I get home if he isnt up before I leave.Its hard because I know have alot less time as mum than I was previously used to and miss him when I am working but I know I cant be the only mum dealing with this pull feeling of wantin to not miss a moment of their childs day but also wants to work and provide the best that they can for their child. I think the way i get through is knowing when I get home J will shout for me as soon as my key goes in the door and run to me arms wide open for that hug that lets me know yes mum i missed you too.

I always say to my friend and family about how fast J is growing up but its absolutely terrifying to think in 6 months time he will be in a nursery 2-3 days a week and then next stage will be school and my little boy won't be little for long. But i plan on building many memories for us to enjoy over the years. I came from a home where my gran was the mother to me my own mother should have been and I was my dads little girl and I want to ensure that J has the best mum and dad we can give him. Family units are something I say about alot but its the absolute truth my family I are amazing and J is going to have great cousins to grow up with aunties and uncles who adore him and be surrounded by love as he is now.

When I think on to the more recent future though I have to admit as a mother who tends to go with her gut instinct and tried and advised methods there is one thing ahead of me I am not sure how to tackle J is getting to potty training age now and I am completely thrown on how best to deal with it we have a potty which J sits on and we cheer and give him praise for doing it properly but have had no success stories as of yet and also getting him to drink cows milk is proving a push and pull battle as he really isnt keen on it we have had occasions of success but mostly he refuses it and wants his formula my only worry is as he is getting to an age where formula isnt appropriate how do I win this battle.

I am going to try and space my blog to every few days though so that this doesnt end up my online diary as unfortunately my life siply isnt that excitin lol. Also please drop some comments yours views are appreciated.